Posts Tagged ‘marriage advice’

The moments that define your relationship

Nov 28 2020

We have been made to believe that with enough chemistry, relationships should just work out by themselves.

We learn zero relationship skills growing up, and yet we know relationships are likely the most critical and complex arena we have to navigate.

So, let’s dive in a cultivate the relationship skills you need for a successful relationship.

One of these skills is knowing how to make your partner feel loved, but that’s not the focus of today’s post. I created the free love language quiz, and you can check that out on Zensensa.

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Love coach: How to reconnect after an argument

Nov 21 2020

Arguments happen in all relationships.

Research has shown that arguments are usual and does not mean you can’t have a long and happy relationship.

Couples therapy has taught me it’s how we argue and how we reconnect that matters.

A key characteristic of happy couples is that they turn towards each other after an argument.

They come together and try to understand the other, and while they might complain about the other’s actions, they never make it about their character.

Let’s look at some ways to reconnect once you have both calmed down.

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Love coach: 6 Tips to end relationship conflicts

Nov 15 2020

In my previous article, we explored the causes of relationship conflicts and why regulation is the key to ending conflicts. If you did not read that go check it out before reading this article.

The essential tool to avoid conflict is learning to regulate our stress response.

Once that takes over, it’s a downhill path.

As a dating coach and relationship coach, I see the inability to deal with our stress response as the most significant issue for connecting with others.

Once we go into our primal brain, it’s game over.

This is one of the critical skills I work with couples on premarital counseling and couple counseling.

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