You are stronger than you think…
- Published on Tuesday, 27 November 2012 11:44
- Last Updated on 27 November 2012
- Adele Theron
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Just like the picture, finding your strength and realising your attributes are found through the struggles and the pain in life. Not when things are easy and you FEEL you are at your strongest. It is through the weak moments that you learn and become stronger because of those circumstances. A bag of Tea may look exactly the same as every other teabag in the box and you can make your judgements and assume which is the strongest, but you will never know or understand until it is placed in the hot water and you experience it and taste it for yourself.
In the same way your expectations of yourself and your limits may lye in a specific place in your mind, and you may think you know exactly how strong you are and what you can and cannot deal with, but again it is through a whirlwind of intense change that your perspective and perceptions on yourself are really tested and you can be met with great surprise.
Our level of strength can always come as a shock when we are tested with difficult situations, such as; losing loved ones, losing jobs, experiencing divorce, breakups and many more. You may have an encouraging realisation that you are a lot stronger than you first thought when it came down to the punch. Or on the other hand may be disappointed that you weren’t as strong as you first though. But In ANY circumstance no matter the depth we CAN determine our strength through our response to the situation and the steps we make after the situations take place. No one was born emotionally stronger than another, it is through experiences and decisions of learning and growing that makes the difference.
Through a time where weakness feels highlighted and we feel that we are helpless there ARE a lot of things we can do to flip the outcome around. A lot of what makes us who we are and what determines our character is the perception in which we see ourselves, and what we focus on. If we focus on our weaknesses we will see weakness. If we focus on our strength we will see strength. It is a fact that what You focus your eyes on THAT IS WHAT YOU WILL SEE!
In the analogy I have used before but evermore remains a strong example and relevant to this subject is how diamonds are formed. The concept that they first start from an unpleasant, dark uneven piece of coal relates to how we feel in the beginning of a crisis. But coal can ONLY be transformed into diamonds within an environment of extreme temperatures, combined with extreme atmospheric pressure, so without the crisis and pressures we come up against how else can we be made into a stronger version of ourselves?
These extreme circumstances of the transition from coal into diamond cause explosions of magma at the speed of an un-corked Champagne bottle and vastly more powerful than that of most volcanoes. It involves heating up, cooling down, strong forces and intense pressure. But when the diamonds are finally formed, they are more complex in structure, they are much stronger than they were ever before and will no longer disintegrate under pressure because of the circumstances they were exposed to. They are noticeably beautiful and their immense strength is clearly displayed. The outcome was worth the process.
In the same way that coal is transformed into a diamond under pressure, it is possible for humans who feel under pressure from a life change they are going through, to be transformed, provided they have something which supports them in being contained during the change.
But the support you have is determined by you. You might have people around you that want to help;you can allow them in or you can shut them out. Or you might not have people around you that want to help, but you can look for people or groups to help or you can do nothing. It is our choice to take the steps in the direction we need to go. You can allow yourself to wither out and be defeated by your circumstance or you can rise above and crush your problems that tried to hold you under. In the midst of a struggle you come up against whatever it may be, you can find that you have untapped strength that waits for you to allow it to show. It may be lying dormant but doesn’t change that it is there… Through unexpected bumps your heart can jump into the opportunities for breakthrough to occur in abundance.
And so i say with confidence, if you make a choice to see those opportunities in which your strength CAN be displayed you will be surprised in how much stronger you are than you ever thought possible. It may take some moulding and shaping, some pressure and some solid heat but if you allow its course to take place you will be shaped into that diamond that is doubled in its worth.
Till next time!
Lots of hugs
I am a change management chick. I help organisations cope with big changes (mergers, acquisitions, large implementations) and I coach and support people through divorce and break ups. It’s all about using the energy of the change to transform lives!
I have been working since 2000 with some of the world’s largest corporations, as a change management specialist, helping people adapt to new situations and experiences created by mergers, acquisitions and large software implementations. The techniques I use and created to help companies and individuals adapt to change were used very successfully to aid thousands of individuals within 18 separate organizations.
I went through a divorce in March 2009 and was way too busy to have an emotional breakdown so used my change management techniques to develop a rapid and intense process to heal and experienced a complete transformation. The process I used has since evolved into a clear cut 21 day strategy for getting over a divorce, capable of dealing with the most dramatic of situations.
I believe that we are living in an unprecedented time of change. The real danger for society is that people resist, ignore or run away from massive changes in their lives and consequently do themselves long-term damage. Divorce can be a very destructive force and high powered, professional career women, like myself, don’t have the luxury of time to fall apart. We want an alternative to months in therapy – something which will hold us together whilst helping us heal around our busy schedules that will also enable us to build healthy, future relationships which are drama-free. Consequently, I have developed a clear pathway, revolutionising the way people view and process change, harnessing its energy to enable deep personal transformation – beyond mere transition.
I focus on providing three benefits to my clients:
• I help people create a solid support structure which grounds them, freeing them to sustain consistent high performance, whilst dealing with the change
• The clear, effective and simple process enables people to harness the energy generated by the change to transform their lives
• Results are experienced quickly and the personal transformation is deep and profound but my approach is not for the faint-hearted as I work within an intense 21 day period
How I currently deliver this is…
> Through corporate change management consulting and programs which I run
> Through one-on-one coaching with high powered career women.
Also, so that more women all over the world can access the breakthrough results I have achieved, I have written a book entitled ‘The Naked Divorce – 21 days to emotional freedom’ which will be published by January/ February 2011. I am also developing a series of audio and video divorce crisis programs which help women get over their divorce within 21 days. These programs can be accessed online and used around their busy schedules to maintain their high performance.
To sum this all up. I am all about helping people adapt to change quickly, whilst experiencing great transformation.
The best way to connect with me is by email or phone!
When I am not focused on change, I love motorcycling, India, Cuba, South Africa, english bull terriers, the beach, being a Pescatarian, triathlons, travelling, romance, dancing salsa, painting, singing at the top of my lungs and riding my motorcycle wherever I damn well please. Life is for living, so sieze the day!