A mum's runt: Shame on British Banks - make them give back to our children!

A mum’s runt: Shame on British Banks – make them give back to our children!

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Published on Wednesday, 01 February 2012 12:02

Last Updated on 01 February 2012

Sharon J. Bainbridge

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I am glad the Government are stamping down on the Banks for paying themselves huge bonuses. Banks are greedy, selfish people with no family values or morals when it comes to our poor children. I want the Bank of Scotland to take a good hard look at my little girl’s house full of damp and toxic black mould which affects her and my Asthma. And tell them that they have the money and power to change children’s lives but they are all too damn selfish and greedy to even try!

They don’t even off to help any of our schools. Our school canteen looks like it was bombed because it is such a run down disgrace! The shame of it all is that when I begged Lloyds Bank not to lend my partner money or give him credit because he is bad with money, they ignored me. All they saw was another victim that could not handle their finances so they could make a huge profit out of them and to hell with what damage this did to the family.

I was so angry because I have no control over what he does. He is his own person. That is why I have to be independent the way I used to be so I can get out of this black hole for my little girls sake. Being pregnant should be the happiest months of your life. For me I cried my eyes out in Court, because my partner had managed to get himself in so much debt with parking tickets and nearly lost his driving licence.

Can you imagine over a £1,000 worth of tickets on top of still paying for a car that got repossessed because he did not meet the payments (which he wanted me to put in my name!) He is not a bad person, just very irresponsible and very bad with money.

To give him credit he did earn £32,000 a year for the first two years when he worked for a Gas and Electric company. That is why I re-mortgaged to publish my fairy book. But then the Gas and Electric companies got greedy and made it very difficult to earn a decent living knocking doors, at the time I did not know this so it caused many arguments.

Some weeks he would be paying £100 in petrol expenses. £12,000 was his salary last year. And that is without all the petrol expenses. These big companies make me sick. They pay the top people salaries so they can live like Kings while the people underneath cannot even pay their bills or support their families. I now owe £7,000 from my partner changing jobs to try and earn the salary he used to earn.

My partner and I have been together for eleven years. I have to admit it has been one rocky road. The only thing we have in common is that we both adore our daughter.

He is one creative and talented person who is wasted. When he creates a song from scratch and I see my little girl singing with him and them both making up their own words it brings a warm glow to my heart. That was the dream I had when I got pregnant. A father that loves his daughter and is there for her. It is a video of my little girl and her Daddy singing the song we made up for a school competition on don’t drink and drive. I feel so proud of both of them with their musical talent.

Family is everything to a child and coming from a broken home and knowing just how it affected my life, I do all I can to keep us together so she can grow up with confidence and meet someone that truly loves her for her, because she is worth it! This morning I was talking to one of the Welsh Mum’s at the school and we both had a good moan about how there is just not enough support for us Mum’s because men run our Country. Jobs are not flexible so we can fit work around our children.

I told her that there is hope because I have just joined London Mums and I really want to set up a support group in Wales with their support.

Mums can change the world. And I look forward to a happier and brighter future for my little girl so she never has to go through the stress and pain that I have.

But hey I am still standing and still fighting because I am surrounded by good friends. If only men were more like our friends, then we would have no recession or wars. I will leave you with that blissful thought!

Sharon J. Bainbridge

I used to work in Gilbert’s house for Haskoll Architects. I really enjoyed living in Pimlico, Putney and Wimbledon. Back then I used to travel and dated a New Zealand guy. Eight years of no ring on the finger and I decided to quit. My sister convinced me to go to Dorset for a weeks holiday and fixed a date with the local singer. We are still together 11 years later and have a little girl. I have always been creative. Nan used to make peg dolls with me and left me her old sewing box, which I treasure. When I worked in a pub in Hastings I made my own clothes. In my twenties I did a doll making course in Brighton and tried to start my own business. I managed to get some handmade brooches into a Covent Garden shop. But decided to stick to secretarial work, which brought in a regular salary. I adore taking photographs so when my little girl was born I decided to take a local photography course. My tutor was so impressed with my Photoshop skills he asked me to teach him some of my techniques. When I showed my Mother in law the Victorian style dress I made for my little girl she said why don’t you have a go at making a Butterfly costume. Well the rest is history. Butterfly Lullaby was born. Butterfly Lullaby is my fairy book, album and Trademark. The Mark Jermin Stage School are the characters in my story and my partner created all the songs. The book was launched at the Dylan Thomas Centre back in March 2007. It was truly beautiful. You can view the little fairies dancing on You Tube. Robin Stevens who you may know from Rosie and Jim is on my Butterfly Lullaby website reading my fairy story Colour me a fairies wish. We were going to do personalised children’s stories together. But shiny things attract gremlins. The trick is to keep going and never give up. My little girl danced to our song Butterfly Lullaby at the Enchanted Manor in front of famous fairy artist Josephine Wall back in October 2009. My little girl and I love making art and craft videos, which we hope to share with London Mum’s. The one thing I adore about London is the way you just fit in. The City is full of different cultures, which makes it an interesting and friendly place to live. I am currently trying to scrapbook postcard my family history. Does anyone know anything about the family history on the old LeFevres department store in Canterbury which is now Debenhams. My Nan’s Grandmother’s name was LeFevre and she lived in Bayswater. Nan was an orphan so we are trying to uncover the hidden ghosts!